煎熬

【煎熬】  - 【主唱：李佳薇】

早知道 你只是飞鸟
拥抱后 手中只剩下 羽毛
当初你又何必浪费
那么多咖啡和玫瑰 来打扰

我想要 安静地思考
天平上 让爱恨不再 动摇
一想你就平衡不了
我关灯还是关不掉 这风暴

心一跳 爱就开始煎熬
每一分 每一秒
火在烧 烧成灰有多好
叫思念 不要吵
我相信我已经快要
快要把你忘掉
跟寂寞 再和好

得不到 也不要乞讨
怎么做 不需要别人 转告
在陷得太深的海底
我也只剩下我自己 能依靠

心一跳 爱就开始煎熬
每一分 每一秒
火在烧 烧成灰有多好
叫思念 不要吵
我相信我已经快要
快要把你忘掉
跟寂寞  再和好
我相信我已经快要
是真的我快要
快要可以微笑 去面对
下一个 拥抱

评论：虽然这支MTV是三级片+又恶心，肮脏的画面，加上主唱者又唱得很高音，但要带出的内容是很有意思的。不管怎样，失恋或是什么的，只要还活着，不都好吗？ 人还是要学会看开。

暧昧

暧昧让人受尽委屈 找不到相爱的证据
何时该前进 何时该放弃
连遗憾都没有勇气

暧昧犹如以上的歌词 -
没错，暧昧的时光，换个角度想，的确是很快乐，模糊的幸福。
其实，它让人陷于半天吊的状态，优柔寡断的爱情。

这让我联想到-
友达以上，恋人未满，甜蜜心烦，隐约混乱。。。
如果双方都喜欢彼此，都对彼此有感觉，那么这将会实现-
如果三个字，别犹豫这么久， 只要你说出口，你就能拥有我。
但如不是那样，那么这将不会出现，反而被拒绝。

有些异性朋友会肯单独出来与你约会，并不代表他/她喜欢着你。
或许他/她只对你有些些好感，把自己当成好朋友看待。
所以啊，一旦表白，异性就会很成熟化的拒绝你，比方说：
还有更好的再等待你/我不够好，你应该得到更好的/我们只当好朋友，好吗？
我们俩不适合/我现在不想谈恋爱

非成熟化的拒绝如：
我不喜欢你/我们是不可能的/你太丑/你的个性我不喜欢/你不富有。。。

我想为什么会有人想活在爱情的泡影里，因为一向前走，可能会以失败收场，而不是
名正言顺地谈一场正经的恋爱。如果失败，他们得处理受伤的心灵，
让自己想清楚，平衡自己的心理。

其实爱情最容易达成的是，一见钟情。虽然如此，还是得花时间去了解彼此的个性，让自己的
爱情路更长久。另一种，就是用细心，贴心打动对方的心，时时刻刻守候在对方的身旁。除非对方
第一眼见到你就对你反感，机会也不给你，那么这招可说是无效。

个人认为，爱情看似简单，就你爱我，我爱你。（是不是真的爱彼此？）
其实它也可以很复杂，就看用什么方法去应付。

我的缘份或许犹如算命师所言，不会那么早降临在我身上。现在的我，唯有让自己
更有成就感，养活自己，爱惜自己。连自己都无法养活，以后要怎么对另一半呢？

Reject Someone Love You

How to reject someone love you, and you do not love him/her? Reject the love sure will hurt the one that love you but you do not love.That is cruel thing we need to do and clear it up.

We need to think a way to reach psychological balance on other side. Then, we try to praise him/her. After that, take the courage and state the reason why cannot accept his/her love. The content should more focus on benefit he/she will get most from him/her if not love each other.

Besides, direct talk can be used and is better. Remember not to ask third party to transfer the reject information. In addition, we need to always respect the other side. In case she/he still do not know you reject him/her, always act the reject attitude, let other side knows that you are not love him/her.

When the other side take his/her courage to confess on you, please do not reject directly. Just express the reject after three or four days. This is to prevent other side will feel hurt and hard to accept the response. If other side insists to love you and do not care your rejection, then you have to ask friends for help, and be cruel to him/her.Do not let the relationship in ambiguous mode.

Lastly, we have to respect the other side. Please do not laugh him/her and not expose his/her love information (love letter) to others, or the molest issues.
Be responsible always. Well, both still can be friend. Still, remember not to become enemy, just reduce the interact with each other.

Friendship VS Love

Friendship

• Can be happened on many people.
• Same level, same opinion.
• No worries. 
• Maybe shy to friends.
• Public.
• The basic is trust. When no more trust, friendship end. 
• Satisfaction.
• Not need other person to respond, just any friends.   

Love

• Just happened only on one person.
• Two interact with each other in good status.
• Can hug, kiss, and touch with each other.
• Privacy.
• Not allowed third party enter.
• No feeling well always, feeling not safe.
• Interact with your respond, like see-saw rules.
• Feeling of owing.

Let Go - Part 2

Let go. Sometimes, we need to let go something that we love, like, or favorites. The things not belongs to your, then is not your. Just let it go.

Well, I could see a lot of people are hard to let go their favorites. Because of what? A lot of good feeling before, a lot of favorites feeling, a lot of touching
moment, and so on. When things go worse, or changes happened in life, it means we need to let it go. There is nothing to be continued as before, it seems like the end.

For me, now I try to let go my personal case. It is hard for me since my sincere is spend on someone that who not appreciate almost one year. My tears before just a waste. Yesterday, I had a chat with my best girl friend. What she told me was right. I should see clear the fact, do not be drown again. This is the moment for me to wake up. I need to face the reality and let go those unhappy things in my life. I will listen to her. Yes, I shouldn't care the person who do not care me. What for? Unless I stupid, or willingly.

[See the fact]. This sentences really makes me realize something. When knows the fact, we need to face it and employs suitable solution on it. Besides, my memory is quite good for those daily life action, no matter bad or good, I can simply store it in my memory, even a very small action. (If able to apply on studies, I will be a genius XD)

No matter what, I already see the fact. All I need to do for now is let go those unhappy and bad things which has happened on me, it is just like the necessary step for me to challenge it in my life.

Let go the unhappy things, bad things, then all good things will comes to the end, I believe.      

The Love Cycle

 

When you love you get hurt

When you get hurt you hate
 

When you hate you try to forget

When you try to forget you start missing

 When you start missing then you fall in love again.

[That's what we call - LOVE] 

 

I Like You

如果很喜欢很喜欢一个人，

那么，

保持一个朋友的距离就够了，

这样可以一辈子。

千万不要奢望靠近，

人一旦有了贪欲，

就注定要失去。

When I like you (or very very like),

I will not going to step forward, 

and maintain a distance like friend relationship. 

When I can be with you, 

I feel happy. 

Then, that was enough for me.

How to forget someone you love?

"Remember that no one in this world is worth your tears, the only worth your tears that person, and never make you cry."

Solution 

Had forgotten the best way a person is not looking for another person to replace, but in time turned to the future and learn to cherish themselves more properly.

"要记住这个世界上没有一个人值得你为他哭，唯一值得你为他哭的那个人，永远也不会让你哭。"

  

解决方案 

原来忘记一个人的最好办法，不是找另一个人来替代，而是在时光转身以后，学会更加好好地珍爱自己。

Just Let Go

Do you ever let go something that you very care, love, or favourite? Sometimes we have to learn to let go, then we will feel better. (*Not Let's Go! = Jom!)

Normally, the something that we care mostly is our lover, or the person who very like. However, when condition goes wrong, or it is impossible to let two people together, all we need to do is "Let Go" (*Not LEGO toys). It is very simple, just let go!

Who said is very simple to let go!? Some people is not willing to let go the things/living things that he/she love.They rather to let themselves get hurt for their love. Well, determination is plays an important role here. Once the determination is strong, the success rate for you to let go is high.

We have to open-minded when we are forced to let go, for all the best condition.Romeo and Julie is a amazing love story, they cannot separated by the other. Well, this world is reality, we need to face it positively. A lot of thinking is needed.

Here, once we choose to let go, we have to face the next steps. Maybe we would meet the new things/target after that. There's no way to turn back. Maybe he/she is your future Mr.right/Miss right...For my situation, I let go a lot of things/love, just for reach the all best condition. Yeah, it is quite hurt when decide to let go. However, let go is better than keep yourself always in hurt.

Once get hurt and cannot bear with it anymore, we are going to let go willingly. The other way round, we are loving and protect ourselves.Isn't it?

是你的，就是你的。不是你的，就不是你的。再怎样强迫下去，都是不可能改变的。
(Is yours is yours. Not yours, not you. No matter how forced down, are unlikely to change.)

放手，放开所有。 (Let go, let go everything.) 

We have to open-minded.   

How to solve Heart Break?

Are you the one who always face the heart break? Well, I am one of this group too :( Although I always act myself in confidence, due to my underweight status, it will bring me down sometimes. Aside of that, my target on the person I like never success in my life. Sure, I met some girls before who like me and express to me, but I am rejected, due to I am not yet prepare, or not so like them. (Not I am arrogant. And I was surprised too, I am ugly and still have people will like me, really outstanding)......

Crap out the rubbish I said. What is heart break? In my opinion, it could be happened on 2 situation. For first situation, that is confession to the person who like, and then get rejected. Second situation is 2 people already in relationship, then break up after a period. In addition, the 3rd situation is where you haven't speak out, the girl already rejected you which is the worst case......So, heart break happens! (Ouch...so hurt T_T)

How to solve it? From internet resources, there is some solution we can use. First, try to get a new hobby, then sooner or later the heart break thing will be disappeared. This is what I saw and search from internet. For me, I think it would be better always keep yourself busy, then heart break will be recovered. Say is easier than do. As the time goes on, I believe the like feeling or love will be washed out, then can find the new target or meet the destiny.

Next, suicide is not suggested. Really. This is the stupid way to solve the heart break. As my friend suggested, speak out to the best friend and share with him/her, heart will be feel better. I believe when meet a new target, the old target will be forget soon. But still, some people that you love might leave trail in life, who is has most feeling one for yourself.

I quite admire (or can be said jealous) on the people who can easily success for their first confession. Why so easy to them? My first love happened when in primary school. Then comes to secondary school, and university. Why every phase I have love a lot? Am I always easy heart change? (Flowery heart) Then, every phase is fail. How comes? Whatever, I have decided not to love.  

Any other ways to solve the heart break? I believe there is a lot of ways to solve it. To become a monk/nun?

           

My Concept on Relationship

So, how do you guys/girls have relationship status before or never experienced the relationship? Well, I am never went into a relationship and want to be single so far. Knows the reason?

The reason is simple, I am skinny guy-Underweight. Nobody loves to be with underweight guys,girls also. It just like to hug, hold hands with skeleton =.= (my personal view)

That's the reason I keep try to add weight on my body.I think is success, but on the tummy part only.My BP's friend always laughed me and said :"Yeah...later u skinny skinny with the big tummy, just like pregnant!" Want 'slap' to him really 0.0 He is fat.

So my concept is let me be normal first, until i have a standard body, then I will consider to start in a relationship. My house mate said if i keep like this, destined to be single in whole life.

Actually, I am not that eager to go in a relationship.So far, single is good.I know, everyone need a partner at last. No one can live alone until whole life ends. We need support from each other.

   

   

Love, Lust or Infatuation?

Everyone knows how to identify love, lust and infatuation?

Love is when you care someone more care about yourself. This is called love.

Lust is you just want to sleep with someone.

Infatuation is you will think about someone most of the time, so desperately want to do everything with someone, is hard to separate with someone. In the mean time, people who fall in this category, they do not know they are in love or lust…

I believe all 3 kinds of nouns everyone sure heard it before. When have lust start with someone, it might not reach the love finally. Somehow, lust with someone might make the result of love. Sometimes, people will choose to love first then lust at last. For infatuation, it might do not know the direction they need to go, to love or lust?

In my mind, love does not need to reach sex at last. The sex should be the final enjoyment of the lovely couples. When there is love between each other, having sex with the partner is different with the partner who does not love.

Sometimes, I just wonder the god’s creation. God create human structure different in male and female shape, and establish mating process. There might be the flaw of this design? Somehow, monk and nun are exists who cannot make sex, love, lust and infatuation. If all the people do not have the 七情六欲(qi qing liu yu)(seven love six lust?)，their heart sure really is pure, and clear. I wonder how is the feeling of that?

In my life, I experience the infatuation most. Then I always in one direction with my own will. What a pity in my love section. When I want to love someone, someone is sure not going to love me. On the other hand, when someone loves me, I not sure that I will love them back…As old goes saying: “What is love? Love can make you miserable, miracle…”

In conclusion, love is AMAZING & UNPREDICTABLE. 

Sex before Marriage

Just wonder that 

Few's year before

I listen to my friend who said that

It is better for sex after marriage

However

Follow the current trends

almost 90% couples have sex before marriage

What is the different? 

Why in long time ago 

Sex before marriage is not good

Now soon become more popular and common

Most couples step into marriage with baby in her tummy

Traditional way seems like have to be abandoned...

And to be a modern people?...

Naked Marriage

Read from magazines…SO what is “naked marriage”? That is two new couples naked all the body in the wedding ceremony and let all people see. Good! right? Haha, that was not the true meaning. The meaning here is just married by register only, no big car, big sum of money, and no many luxury things to reach a marriage~ a simple couple life!

In my mind I think this is good. Why? If thinking positively, two persons just married with register, and then live happily, this basic of relationship was reached. Then, the couples not need to spent a lot of money on wedding ceremony, help to protect earth also (not need use up a lot of invitation letter, save resources of trees.) Two persons just live normal and try to happily ever after without telling everyone.

Of course, most of the people will against this. Said about this was against the traditional, and say is too “cincai”…Actually, if I got a chance (if…) I will try this >.< However, I know that the probability that I failed is high lo~